Library / Feelings

For when you feel

Fear of Intimacy / Vulnerability

Wanting closeness but keeping people at arm's length, because letting them in feels risky.

174 picks matched to this feeling

Films

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  Good Will Hunting
  Film · 1997
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  Antwone Fisher
  Film · 2002
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  Shrek
  Film · 2001
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  That Awkward Moment
  Film · 2014
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  Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
  Film · 2004
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  Moonlight
  Film · 2016
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  Adam
  Film · 2009
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  Before Sunrise
  Film · 1995
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  Beginners
  Film · 2010
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  Brokeback Mountain
  Film · 2005
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  Carol
  Film · 2015
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  Children of a Lesser God
  Film · 1986
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  Dear Zindagi
  Film · 2016
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  Her
  Film · 2013
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  Lars and the Real Girl
  Film · 2007
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  Love, Simon
  Film · 2018
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  Punch-Drunk Love
  Film · 2002
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  Rocky
  Film · 1976
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  Shadowlands
  Film · 1993
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  Short Term 12
  Film · 2013
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  The Secret Life of Walter Mitty
  Film · 2013
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  Up in the Air
  Film · 2009
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  When Harry Met Sally...
  Film · 1989
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  Amélie
  Film · 2001
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  Friends with Benefits
  Film · 2011
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  No Strings Attached
  Film · 2011
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  Sleeping with Other People
  Film · 2015
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  Love & Other Drugs
  Film · 2010
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  Bros
  Film · 2022
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  Notting Hill
  Film · 1999

TV shows

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  BeTipul
  TV · 2005–2008
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  The Bridge (Bron/Broen)
  TV · 2011–2018
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  Fleabag
  TV · 2016–2019
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  In Treatment
  TV · 2008–2010; 2021
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  It's Okay to Not Be Okay
  TV · 2020
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  Love Is Blind
  TV · 2020–present
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  Sex Education
  TV · 2019–2023
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  Six Feet Under
  TV · 2001–2005
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  You're the Worst
  TV · 2014–2019
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  House
  TV · 2004–2012
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  The Last of Us
  TV · 2023–present
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  Mad Men
  TV · 2007–2015
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  Normal People
  TV · 2020
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  Queer Eye
  TV · 2018–2026
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  Cheers
  TV · 1982–1993
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  Grey's Anatomy
  TV · 2005–present
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  Married at First Sight
  TV · 2014–present (US); 2015–present (Australia)
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  Mum
  TV · 2016–2019
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  Peep Show
  TV · 2003–2015
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  Tuca & Bertie
  TV · 2019–2022
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  Starstruck
  TV · 2021–2023

Anime

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  Neon Genesis Evangelion
  Anime · 1995–1996
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  Kaguya-sama: Love Is War
  Anime · 2019
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  My Teen Romantic Comedy SNAFU
  Anime · 2013–2020

Documentaries

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  Couples Therapy
  Documentary · 2019–present
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  Stutz
  Documentary · 2022
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  Flee
  Documentary · 2021
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  Free Solo
  Documentary · 2018
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  The Work
  Documentary · 2017

Books

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  Adolphe
  Book · 1816
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  All Systems Red (The Murderbot Diaries #1)
  Book · 2017
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  Fathers and Sons
  Book · 1862
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  Get a Life, Chloe Brown
  Book · 2019
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  The Kiss Quotient
  Book · 2018
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  The Lady with the Dog and Other Stories
  Book · 1899 (title story); collections 1917 onward
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  Normal People
  Book · 2018
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  Things Fall Apart
  Book · 1958
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  Turtles All the Way Down
  Book · 2017
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  The Bride Test
  Book · 2019
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  Dangerous Liaisons
  Book · 1782
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  Eugene Onegin
  Book · 1825–1832
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  Giovanni's Room
  Book · 1956
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  A Hero of Our Time
  Book · 1840
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  Howl's Moving Castle
  Book · 1986
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  A Little Life
  Book · 2015
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  Notes from Underground
  Book · 1864
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  Peer Gynt
  Book · 1867
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  The Posthumous Memoirs of Brás Cubas
  Book · 1881
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  The Princess of Clèves
  Book · 1678
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  Exciting Times
  Book · 2020
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  Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
  Book · 2010
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  Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
  Book · 2008
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  Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It
  Book · 2014
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  Beautiful World, Where Are You
  Book · 2021
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  How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love
  Book · 2021

Game

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  The Last of Us Part I
  Game · 2022 (remake of the 2013 original)

Songs

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  Self Aware
  Song · 2026
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  Brave
  Song · 2013
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  911 / Mr. Lonely
  Song · 2017
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  Best Part
  Song · 2017
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  Famous Last Words
  Song · 2006
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  Heartbreak Anniversary
  Song · 2020
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  I Will Follow You into the Dark
  Song · 2005
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  Lover
  Song · 2019
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  Nothing Else Matters
  Song · 1991
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  Ordinary People
  Song · 2004
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  Thinkin Bout You
  Song · 2012
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  Too Good at Goodbyes
  Song · 2017
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  The Weekend
  Song · 2017
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  True Colors
  Song · 1986
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  Demons
  Song · 2012
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  Soap
  Song · 2015
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  I Am Not a Robot
  Song · 2010
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  The Archer
  Song · 2019
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  Maps
  Song · 2003
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  I Am a Rock
  Song · 1966
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  Desperado
  Song · 1973
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  Never Gonna Fall in Love Again
  Song · 1976
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  Northern Attitude
  Song · 2022
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  Wake Up
  Song · 2004
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  Father Time
  Song · 2022
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  Glory Box
  Song · 1994
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  Losing My Religion
  Song · 1991
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  Don't Delete the Kisses
  Song · 2017
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  Valentine
  Song · 2022
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  Can I Call You Tonight?
  Song · 2018
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  El Scorcho
  Song · 1996
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  Happy & Sad
  Song · 2018
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  Futile Devices
  Song · 2010
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  Assume Form
  Song · 2019
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  Bag Lady
  Song · 2000
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  Daylily
  Song · 2017
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  Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow
  Song · 1982
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  EARFQUAKE
  Song · 2019
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  Stay
  Song · 2012
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  Don't Leave Me This Way
  Song · 1978
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  The Only Exception
  Song · 2009
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  Across the Sea
  Song · 1996
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  Trust Issues
  Song · 2011
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  No Role Modelz
  Song · 2014
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  Stay With Me
  Song · 2014
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  Seigfried
  Song · 2016
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  Flaws
  Song · 2011
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  Bags
  Song · 2019

Albums

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  4:44
  Album · 2017
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  Blue
  Album · 1971
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  Golden Hour
  Album · 2018
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  Some Kind of Peace
  Album · 2020

Podcasts

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  Therapist Uncensored
  Podcast · 2016–present
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  Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
  Podcast · 2017–present
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  Unlocking Us with Brené Brown
  Podcast · 2020–present (hiatus 2023; relaunched Feb 2024)
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  Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
  Podcast · 2018–present
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  Small Things Often
  Podcast · 2020–2022
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  The Man Enough Podcast
  Podcast · 2021–present (status unclear after 2024)

Stand-up specials

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  Jerrod Carmichael: Rothaniel
  Stand-up · 2022
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  Neal Brennan: Blocks
  Stand-up · 2022
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  Jacqueline Novak: Get On Your Knees
  Stand-up · 2024

Videos

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  Brené Brown on Empathy
  Video · 2013
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  Listening to shame | Brené Brown | TED
  Video · 2012
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  The Power of Vulnerability | Brené Brown | TED
  Video · 2010
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  An Experiment in Gratitude | The Science of Happiness
  Video · 2013
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  Connected, but alone? | Sherry Turkle
  Video · 2012
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  In a Heartbeat - Animated Short Film
  Video · 2017
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  The secret to desire in a long-term relationship | Esther Perel | TED
  Video · 2013
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  Why I'm Done Trying To Be "Man Enough" | Justin Baldoni @TED
  Video · 2017
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  Mandy Len Catron: Falling in love is the easy part
  Video · 2015

Book chapter

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  Daring Greatly: Chapter 3, Understanding and Combating Shame
  Book chapter · 2012