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Lars and the Real Girl

Film · 2007 · Dir. Craig Gillespie; written by Nancy Oliver. Starring Ryan Gosling, Emily Mortimer, Paul Schneider, Kelli Garner, Patricia Clarkson

Nobody laughed at Lars. They just met him where he was, and that's what let him come back to them. 🫶

Who it's for

Lars is so afraid of closeness that ordinary touch feels painful, and his relationship with a life-size doll is a way of having companionship without risk.

Lonely→Comforted

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What it is

Craig Gillespie's comedy-drama, written by Nancy Oliver, is set in a small Minnesota town. Lars Lindstrom, a withdrawn young man who finds being touched painful, lives in the converted garage next to his brother Gus and pregnant sister-in-law Karin. When Lars introduces Bianca, a life-size doll he ordered online, as his girlfriend, his worried family takes him to the town's doctor and psychologist, Dagmar.

Where to find it

Rent or buy on major digital stores. Streaming availability rotates; check JustWatch.

Before you start

Heads up: Grief over a mother's death in childbirth.

Age: PG-13 (some sex-related content; MPAA)

In vain have I struggled. It will not do. My feelings will not be repressed. You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice, Chapter XXXIV

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