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A call to men | Tony Porter
Nobody handed you the rules of being a man in writing. Once you can see the box, you can step out of it.
Who it's for
Many men absorbed rules about toughness and emotion without ever seeing them named; giving them a label (the man box) makes an invisible script visible and therefore questionable.
Feelings it meets
What it is
In this TEDWomen 2010 talk, Tony Porter, co-founder of A Call to Men, urges men to reject the pressure to 'act like a man.' He names the 'man box', the set of expectations boys are taught about masculinity, and uses personal stories, including one about his father crying, to show how those expectations can lead to disrespect and abuse toward women and other men.
Where to find it
YouTube, official TED channel (free). Also on TED.com.
Before you start
Heads up: Recounted sexual assault of a teen girl.
Age: Ages 16+
I’ve got out at last,Charlotte Perkins Gilman, The Yellow Wallpaper
