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What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
Not "what's wrong with you?" but "what happened to you?" One question changes everything. 💛
Who it's for
For people who have spent years blaming themselves for big reactions, shutdowns or feeling unsafe around others, this book offers a gentler frame: those responses often make sense given what happened.
Feelings it meets
What it is
Published by Flatiron Books (An Oprah Book), this book is built from conversations between Oprah Winfrey and psychiatrist and brain-development researcher Dr. Bruce D. Perry. It proposes shifting the question from "What's wrong with you?" to "What happened to you?" and explains, in accessible terms, how early experiences shape the developing brain and later emotional reactions, relationships and behaviour.
Where to find it
Hardcover, paperback, e-book and audiobook from major booksellers and libraries.
Before you start
Heads up: Discussion of childhood abuse.
Age: Adult nonfiction
When I stand before thee at the day's end thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing.Rabindranath Tagore, Stray Birds, no. 290
