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Not a Pretty Girl

Song · 1995 · Ani DiFranco. Album: Not a Pretty Girl

not a damsel, never was 🎸

Who it's for

In the title track of her album, Ani DiFranco rejects being seen as a pretty girl in need of rescue.

Underestimated, fired up→Self-possessed, strong

Feelings it meets

What it is

"Not a Pretty Girl" is the title track of Ani DiFranco's 1995 album, released on her own label, Righteous Babe Records. The song challenges cultural beauty standards and rejects the idea that a woman should be a passive figure waiting to be rescued, pushing back against men who expect that of her. It argues that who a person is and what they do matter more than how they look.

Where to find it

All major streaming services.

Before you start

Heads up: Mild language.

Age: Suggested 13+

Slavery is terrible for men; but it is far more terrible for women.Harriet Jacobs, Incidents in the Life of a Slave Girl

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