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The Courage to Be Disliked: The Third Night, Discard Other People's Tasks
Whether they like you is literally not your job. Here's the idea that ends people-pleasing. 🫡
Who it's for
Written as a conversation between a philosopher and a frustrated young man, this section introduces the "separation of tasks": asking of any situation, whose task is this? How you act is your task; how others judge you is theirs.
Feelings it meets
What it is
This section of Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga's The Courage to Be Disliked continues the book's dialogue between a philosopher and a young man about Alfred Adler's psychology. It introduces the 'separation of tasks': asking who ultimately bears the consequences of a choice in order to decide whose responsibility it is.
Where to find it
In print, ebook and audiobook; widely held in libraries.
Before you start
Age: General audience (suggested 14+)
Everywhere I see bliss, from which I alone am irrevocably excluded.Mary Shelley, Frankenstein, Chapter 10
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