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Pick Up Your Feelings

Song · 2020 · Jazmine Sullivan (performer and co-writer; produced by DZL and Nova Wav) · from the album Heaux Tales

You don't owe them a second chance. You can hand their feelings right back. 💅🏾

Who it's for

The song is a clear, grown kiss-off, telling a former partner the relationship is finished, which models assertive boundary-setting.

Bitter / Resentful→Empowered

Feelings it meets

What it is

The second single from Jazmine Sullivan's album Heaux Tales, released by RCA on November 20, 2020. It is a breakup kiss-off in which the narrator confronts a former partner she caught being unfaithful and makes clear the relationship is over and she has closed her heart to him. It won the Grammy for Best R&B Performance, tied with Silk Sonic's Leave the Door Open.

Where to find it

Spotify, Apple Music, YouTube Music, Amazon Music (widely available).

Before you start

Heads up: References to infidelity.

Age: Ages 14+

Laws and principles are not for the times when there is no temptation: they are for such moments as this, when body and soul rise in mutiny against their rigour;Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre, Chapter XXVII

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