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Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel | TED
When an affair breaks your world open, the question isn't only why. It's what now.
Who it's for
After an affair, people are flooded and often swing between rage and self-blame; a couples therapist's calm framing gives a way to think rather than only react.
Confused→Clear-Headed
Feelings it meets
What it is
In this TED2015 talk, relationship therapist Esther Perel reframes infidelity. She explains why affairs are so traumatic: they threaten our emotional security. She also explores affairs as expressions of longing and loss, and of desires for novelty or self-discovery, rather than only as betrayals.
Where to find it
YouTube, official TED channel (free). Also on TED.com.
Before you start
Heads up: Infidelity and betrayal.
Age: Ages 16+
Love all, trust a few, Do wrong to none:William Shakespeare, All's Well That Ends Well, Act 1, Scene 1
