Self Control

Who it's for

Ocean described the song as about two people who shared feelings but couldn't relate, not on the same wavelength, which gives listeners words for a heartbreak that often goes unnamed because nothing official ended.

Feelings it meets

• Situationship
• Breakup
• Letting Go of the Past
• Unrequited Love
• Communication

What it is

"Self Control" is a song from Frank Ocean's 2016 album Blonde, produced by Ocean, Jon Brion and Malay, with arrangement and guitars by Alex G and Austin Feinstein. Ocean said it concerns a relationship where both people had feelings for each other but were not on the same wavelength, and it reflects his struggle to let go of a lover.

Where to find it

Spotify, Apple Music, YouTube Music, Amazon Music (widely available) (Blonde was a timed Apple Music exclusive at launch; now widely available).

Before you start

Heads up: Brief sexual references.

Age: Ages 16+

And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet, “On Love”