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Demolition

Film · 2015 · Dir. Jean-Marc Vallée; written by Bryan Sipe. Starring Jake Gyllenhaal, Naomi Watts, Chris Cooper, Judah Lewis

He didn't cry at the funeral. He started taking his house apart instead.

Who it's for

Demolition begins with a man who doesn't cry after his wife dies and can't explain why, a situation many bereaved people feel ashamed of.

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What it is

Jean-Marc Vallée's drama follows Davis Mitchell, an investment banker who survives a car crash that kills his wife, Julia, and finds he feels little sadness. A complaint letter about a faulty hospital vending machine leads to a series of confessional letters and a friendship with customer service representative Karen and her son Chris.

Where to find it

Rent or buy on major digital stores. Streaming availability rotates; check JustWatch.

Before you start

Heads up: A spouse's sudden death; homophobic attack.

Age: R (language, some sexual references, drug use, disturbing behavior)

Love! when you come with the burning lamp of pain in your hand, I can see your face and know you as bliss.Rabindranath Tagore, Stray Birds, no. 162

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