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The Farewell

Film · 2019 · Dir. Lulu Wang; written by Lulu Wang. Starring Awkwafina, Tzi Ma, Diana Lin, Zhao Shu-zhen

Her family said: we carry it so she doesn't have to. Sometimes love looks like a secret you don't agree with.

Who it's for

Billi lives the split many children of immigrants feel: she thinks her grandmother has a right to know, while her family sees the secret as a way of carrying the burden for her.

Sad→Comforted

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What it is

Written and directed by Lulu Wang, the film follows Billi, an aspiring writer in New York, who learns that her grandmother Nai Nai in Changchun, China, has been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. The family decides not to tell Nai Nai and uses a cousin's planned wedding as a pretext to gather and say goodbye.

Where to find it

Rent or buy on major digital stores. Streaming availability rotates; check JustWatch.

Before you start

Heads up: A grandparent's terminal cancer.

Age: PG

Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet, “On Death”

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