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Love, no matter what | Andrew Solomon
You can love your child with everything you have and still be learning to accept them. Both can be true.
Who it's for
Solomon's distinction between vertical identities (passed down from parents) and horizontal ones (not shared with parents, such as deafness, dwarfism or autism) gives parents words for why a child's difference can feel so disorienting.
Feelings it meets
What it is
In this TEDMED 2013 talk, writer Andrew Solomon draws on his interviews with many families about raising children who are fundamentally different from their parents, including children with disabilities, prodigies and children who have committed crimes. He looks at what these parents learn and at the difference between unconditional love and unconditional acceptance.
Where to find it
YouTube, official TED channel (free). Transcript on TED.com.
Before you start
Heads up: Discusses the Columbine shooting.
Age: Ages 16+
Every child comes with the message that God is not yet discouraged of man.Rabindranath Tagore, Stray Birds, no. 77
